Yes, I watched Urban Cowboy 3x this weekend and I cant get that line out of my head. I
couldn't remember it the other day and I googled for an hour trying to figure out just what it was that Pam's daddy did, then I remembered "Daddy does oil, and all that that implies."
You know, many of us are moms, some single moms. You'd like to think that it is an easy job, but like I have said before, if it were
easy, fathers would do it. Some fathers are wonderful, some could be great if given the opportunity, and some are just plain $#!++y. There have been many times I have sat down to blog or email about Jake and maybe a line or two is added about something I have done, not many, though. Then I got to thinking, wait a minute, if it
weren't for ME, Jake
wouldn't get to do the things he does. I am going to get on a high horse for a minute and say, all those times I told you about how well Jake has done at baseball, how well he is doing in school, how well mannered (most of the time) he is...I am going to pat myself on the back and say that is all because of me....I am proud to say...I am happy with the mother that I am...I am even more proud of the young man Jake WILL be. I am sure some of you reading this will think that I am being a little full of myself, but if I am not proud of the way I have
handled situations with Jake, who will be. No one else is going to pat me on the back. No one else is going to do the things I do for Jake. And I know I am SUPPOSED to do these things for him since I am his mom, but no where does it say I have to nor does it say I should do it alone. Though I have Jeremy in my life and he is a great male figure in Jake's life, he
isn't his father. I am not going to blog about my feelings for his dad, lets just say there is a reason we are divorced. What being a mother is and what it implies are two totally different things. It is being a positive role model, it is being a disciplinarian, it is being a teacher, it is being a doctor for the minor boo-boos, it is being a photographer for that special moment, it is being a taxi for all the sporting events, it is being a coach for the said sporting events, its being Santa, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, and everything else we, as mothers, must endure. There is nothing in this world I would rather be. Next time you read something someone has written about their children and its 3 pages long and they have nothing to say about what they have done, remember those 3 pages and then say, "Oh, she has done something, 3 pages of somethings."
I often wonder, what have I done, what are my accomplishments. Then I look at Jake and they are all right there in the smile and hug that await me. He is my accomplishment, he is my life, he is my heart.
Mommy...I title I carry with pride!
Sincerely Yours...Motherhood has a very humanizing effect. Everything gets reduced to essentials.
~Meryl Streep~
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